The Myth of Mars and Venus by Deborah Cameron
In The Myth of Mars and Venus, Deborah Cameron does a kind of work similar to that of researchers such as Janet Hyde, Anne Fausto-Sterling, Mark Liberman or Cordelia Fine: she challenges this myth, drawing from several sources in the process. Cameron is a linguist at the University of Oxford, so her specific focus here is on sociolinguistics and on the widespread belief that men and women communicate very differently. This includes assumptions such as: women talk more than men, women talk to build relationships and men to obtain information, women are averse to direct commands or requests whereas men are blunt and straight to the point, and so on and so forth.
Deborah Cameron checks the references of several popular books on gender differences and uncovers such interesting things as “facts” that have been simply made up (for example, the figures often cited to support the aforementioned belief that women talk a lot more than men were drawn from an author’s imagination rather than from any sort of empirical research). She also explains something that Cordelia Fine christened “file drawer syndrome” – the phenomenon that leads research uncovering gender similarities to linger unpublished in file drawers, either because researchers don’t see it as containing relevant results or because they know it to be unpublishable due to lack of interest. Furthermore, she cites metanalyses that show that the differences within groups of men and women are much larger than across genders; she challenges the BECAUSE CAVEMEN circular logic of evolutionary psychology; and she refers to methodologically sound and peer-reviewed studies that clearly contradict the myth of Mars and Venus.
Another thing Cameron does is draw attention to the often dishonest way proponents of the myth frame their point of view. Sadly, the tendency to gain credibility by casting oneself as the lone voice of dissent is every bit as common as it is infuriating. As Cameron puts it,
Writers in this vein are fond of presenting themselves as latter-day Galileos, braving the wrath of the political correctness lobby by daring to challenge the feminist orthodoxy which denies that men and women are by nature profoundly different. (…) Yet before we applaud, we should perhaps pause to ask ourselves: since when has silence reigned about the differences between men and women? Certainly not since the early 1990s, when the previous steady trickle of books began to develop into a raging torrent. By now, a writer who announces that sex differences are natural is not ‘saying the unsayable’, he or she is stating the obvious. The proposition that men and women communicate differently is particularly uncontroversial, with clichés like ‘men never listen’ and ‘women find it easier to talk about their feelings’ references constantly in everything from women’s magazines to humorous greeting cards.Acceptance of the myth of Mars and Venus is actually as far from a controversial stance as possible. It is in fact the dominant mainstream opinion, and its hold on popular consciousness is as profound as it is troubling. One of the most worrisome consequences of the acceptance this myth is its influence on the way rape cases are popularly perceived. To cite Cameron once more,
For example, the belief that ‘male-female miscommunication’ is an endemic problem is increasingly influencing the way we deal with crimes of rape and sexual assault. Defence lawyers can now argue that because the sexes communicate differently, a man may genuinely, and through no fault of his own, have understood a woman to be consenting to sex when by her own account she was doing no such thing. If this argument is accepted, the defendant may be acquitted or punished less severely on the grounds that he did not intentionally disregard the woman’s wishes, he simply misinterpreted them.The portrayal of men and women that emerges from the myth of Mars and Venus is not really flattering to either gender. And unlike what its champions would maintain, its widespread acceptance so far seems to only lead to further unhappiness and steeper social inequalities.
The Myth of Mars and Venus does for sociolinguistics what Delusions of Gender does for the neurosciences. It’s not as detailed a piece of work, but what it does cover, it covers extremely well. And it belongs to a tradition of books I wholeheartedly embrace: books that combat the ideological biases in science through better and more rigorous science. Can we have more of these, please?
Other interesting bits:
Most research studies investigating the behaviour of men and women are designed around the question: ‘is there a difference?’—and the presumption is usually that there will be. If a study finds a significant difference between male and female subjects (in other words, a result which statistical tests show could not have been produced by chance), that is considered to be a ‘positive’ finding, and has a good chance of being published in a scientific journal. A study which finds no significant difference is less likely to be published. This mean that some negative findings are never even submitted for publication. It also means that if a study has examined a large number of variables and found positive results for only one or two of them, it will be the least typical, positive findings which researchers emphasize.They read it too:
These generalisations present a range of problems, but one problem they all have in common is that they treat ‘men’ and ‘women’ as internally undifferentiated categories. Regardless of its substance, any claim about men and women that ignores the existence of differences within each group is bound to oversimplify the picture, because it is taking a telescope to something that needs to be examined with a microscope.
Eve’s Alexandria (An excellent and detailed review which I recommend that you all read.)
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